Rings (aka Shabka)!After I finish writing this I will comment on my favorite posts from today :) Apart from the "Marriage in Egypt" thing, I am going to post a compilation of favorites; weekly on Thursdays! This Thursday's will include this week and last week.
I love you feedback! I am glad you like the idea :) and I shall not yet reveal the little secret (it's not that juicy but I am happy with that)
So, anyway, on to the rings!
Egyptians, like all other couples around the world get their wedding band, their engagement ring and their wedding ring. The only difference is that we get them all at the same time( we call it the shabka)! Since there is no decent, romantic propsal, you get your wedding band first; to show that your engaged. "Shabka" literally means what attaches you to the other person "attacher" but is percieved as your grooms gift to you, and maybe what shows the rest of the people that you are committed to someone.
Let me clarify this:
- The Wedding Band: During the engagement period, you wear your wedding band on your right hand ring finger. Some grooms, give their brides the wedding band in the 'fat-ha" visit. Some don't. When you get married, the wedding band moves to your left hand ring finger. Girls can choose to wear golden ones, (Muslim) men are confined to white gold, platinum or silver..you know anything that is...white.
- The Engagement Ring: What might stereotypically be called an wedding ring in the west, is our engagement ring. Your get that as your engagement present from your groom. And, of course there are a ton of zaghareet as he puts the ring on your finger.
- The Wedding Ring: Ah! The big stone! Be it a 3-stone or one-stone ring, it's what shines most on your finger, and what your mom's friends check out first thing. Like I mentioned, you mostly get all three rings at the same time.
The price ranges, but the average for someone belonging to my class is about 50,000 LE (I think?) which is about 8,865.80 USD, 6,698.30 EUR, 12,257.51 AUD, 89,132,747.60 IRR, 71,734.35 SEK (te-he). People with a different culture than mine prefer a gold "shabka" which basically consists of a nechlace, a bracelet, a ring and a pair of earings. But that's not what we do.
Picking your shabka is a very important event; you, your parents (or just your mom, maybe your sister(s)), the groom's parents (or just his mom, maybe his sister(s)) and anyone else you want to be there (since this is an important thing to you) go to the jeweller's and look at each and every set they have, or at least that is what I imagine I will do since I am very picky and very hesitant!
Pictures are from google ( I know I should've posted prettier ones)
More reads: here and here.
Coming Up: Mahr( "bride price" and it's replacement) This will probably be a short post!